Recently, I had a chance to check out the DC screening of the founders of this site’s new film, Still Standing. I have seen each of their three previous films and of course each of them were top notch. But this new film is “next level” times three or four!
When asked about how to survive hitting the “marriage wall,” one of the couples replied, “Push past it…” It was a sentiment that coincided with this very post that I had been working on, about what to do when we want to leave.
When You Want to Leave
I have a chance to talk to many couples through the course of a week and even a day. And the reality is, most if not all couples have, will or are faced with a fork in the road at some point, at least once in their marriage, where they have to ask themselves and each other, “Can we make it?” or “Should we end it?”
Perhaps, realizing that it is a place that countless others have been before can be a significant source of encouragement. So often trouble in any area of our life makes us feel like we are an island of hardship all alone. But the reality is, especially when it comes to marriage, every marriage faces difficulty. The very idea of marriage brings with it an understanding of difficulties. God takes two imperfect people and welds them together. So the perception of our marriage always being a smooth road is not plausible. And often the ingredients that go into our bad marriage scenario are not what we ever recognized were in our marriage. It was not until we got married that we realized the personality “rubs” of our spouse to the degree to which they fray our nerves as they do now.
Now that we see just how poor for richer and poorer can be, now that we realize just how sick in sickness and in health can be or how bad the bad times of in good times and bad times can be, what do we do?
We push past it. We keep searching for ways to accept each other where we are, and learn to love the person we have more than the person we thought they were. We confess the reality of the situation and in honesty we learn to love again – as a team. Excuses are plenteous, wanting to leave at some point, is common. But it is the committed couple that endures their share of hardship and finds a way to push through – together.
- Push through communication disconnections
- Push through bedroom tensions
- Push through points of inconsideration
- Push through financial strain
- Push through outside family interference(s)
- Push through infidelity
- Push through lack of trust
- Push through “it,” whatever “it” is, keep pushing each other to love more, to talk, to try more, keep pushing…
How about you BMWK, how do you continue to push through tough stuff in your marriage, when giving up is on your mind?
Click here to see the trailer for Still Standing.
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