Comments on: Too Many Sex Stipulations are Bad for Your Marriage

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 00:13:11 +0000

If you feel like that then don’t marry that person!!!!!!

By: tee

tee — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 23:36:56 +0000

Deficate?? I agree that all within marriage is allowed as long as both r in agreement, but to me that request is unsanitary, risks disease, and makes me wonder (seriously) if the requestor has some mental health issues. There is NOTHING respectful abut that as the doer or receiver.

By: Claudette

Claudette — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 22:03:23 +0000

The foundation is good. I agree with the substance of it. However, I do believe the article is too open. It leaves too many openings of sick minded people to enter the marital bed with all sorts of perversions.

By: Chinetha Gray

Chinetha Gray — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 21:05:50 +0000

So true! There are some things that people over spiritualize. I just cant imagine God critiquing a husband and wife’s dealings in the bedroom….unless it includes bringing someone else into it….IJS

By: Chinetha Gray

Chinetha Gray — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 21:02:00 +0000

I agree 150%!!

By: LaToya

LaToya — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 20:16:11 +0000

In the Bible, Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7
New King James Version (NKJV)

Principles of Marriage
7 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:

It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.

8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

So what I get is that Paul, an apostle says if you want to have sex, get married!!! Doesn’t say what kind a husband and wife can or cannot have.

By: Brenda Lee McNeal

Brenda Lee McNeal — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:04:50 +0000

GREAT ARTICLE, Defiling the bed means , when the married couple is having sex and one spouse is thinking it was another person makes the bed defiled. Action speaks louder than words,… so there are some things expressed in the bed that sends a stronger message to the spouse that I’m free with you. When freedom isn’t expressed in the bed you can loose your spouse being religous, let’s be real about this… That’s why a whore can pull a married man out off the home cause she will do whatever it takes to please him, and in the long run she becomes his shoulder to cry on , Let’s face it everyone has a fantasy about the bed being a place of fulfilment.

By: Kevin L. Warmack

Kevin L. Warmack — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 11:34:01 +0000

The marital bed is a place where we as a couple come to express our enjoyment of each other. How each couple does it is their own business and this should be one spot where the world including your religious beliefs, should not intrude. So, if you want your wife swinging from that chandelier, etc then have at it!!

By: LaWanda

LaWanda — Thu, 14 Jun 2012 12:18:43 +0000

I really like this article. Each couple must decide what works best for them and not let the world know what is happening in the bedroom. Marriage should be liberating and a level of freedom felt when expressing intimacy and love with one another.

By: cessa

cessa — Thu, 14 Jun 2012 03:02:38 +0000

Honestly, when your married so long as it makes you and your partner happy I don’t see what the big deal is! I was talking with my boyfriend who over heard a story at his church! Someone asked the pastor was it ok if he deficated on her and she liked it from a bible stand point! Personally its not my thing but if it floats their boats, their married and they enjoy it then so be it! This is a bunch of Bologna!

By: Kat C.

Kat C. — Thu, 14 Jun 2012 01:51:19 +0000

I love that you wrote this. The marriage bed is,”Undefiled.” That being said anything goes as long as both of you agree to it. Sometimes it’s slow and passionate, Other times it’s rough, foreplay, role playing, dancing for your husband, and stripping for him. It’s all fair game. It’s not dirty or nasty. Sex in marriage is amazing, cause you can completely be yourself with one another. I can be vulnerable and be exposed. As long as the partnership and mutual respect is there it’s all gravy. I pretty much agree with the posts above.
Peace, love & blessing

By: Ramis

Ramis — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 20:18:11 +0000

I think that if you’re interested in being adventurous in the bedroom as a married couple you should be considerate of your partner and ask them if they feel comfortable fulfilling your sexual desire. At the same time, you need to be open minded to their sexual desires as well (i.e. if you’re not willing to roleplay why should your partner role play for you?). In most instances a partner wants his/her spouse to be sexually satisfied so if there is something that you really want to try and your partner is hesitant, don’t make them feel like a bad spouse for not being initially willing. But instead converse about how you just want to try a new way of being physically intimate together in order to strengthen the emotional bond you two share (unless one partner is asking to bring someone else into your marital bed. That’s a breech of your vows no matter what your partner says). As it relates to sex toys, that’s kind of a dangerous territory. Essentially having a sex toy is telling your partner “I am capable of replacing you” and “not only am I capable of replacing you but your replacement (most likely) is bigger and better than you.” No one wants to feel expendable.

By: Erica B.

Erica B. — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 18:49:57 +0000

I agree with this post completely! Whatever both parties agree upon is fine by me!

By: Fikicia

Fikicia — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 17:45:03 +0000

Good Answer Rick….good answer!

By: Kristy

Kristy — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 15:51:57 +0000

I think you’re right on point also. I’ve always intertpreted the “the marriage bed undefiled’ as speaking against extramarrital affairs and adultery. The enemy wants to encourage sex outside of marriage (because he wants to destroy marriage, thus the marriage bed being defiled). he also wants to discourage sex inside of marriage (again trying to destroy marriage). If the enemy can get husbands and wives to feel some sort of shame or guilt by getting a little ‘freaky’ in bed then we give him support in continuing to excercise his strategy in creating division in a marriage. I love the part in the article where you address this very thing of automatically making things wrong as a start to breeding shame and separation. God created sex for pleasure, intimacy, comfort, oneness and He didn’t create sex to feel good in just “one ” position. Great Article.