Because we run a large marriage and parenting site and we produce movies on marriage, people want to know our story.  They want to know how we met and  when did we know that we had “the one.”  Of course, our answers are different, as we’ve had different journeys that led us to each other.

Lamar and I were engaged after dating for 11 months.  He planned a very romantic proposal for me.  He wanted to take me for a walk along a beautiful waterfront that had walking paths and benches in order to propose to me there.  But on the day of the proposal, I was not agreeable.  I would not get out of the car.  I was tired, it was cold, and I just wanted to go home and chill.  So, we went back to his place to chill.  He put the ring on a necklace and as we lay down watching a movie, I discovered the ring. I don’t even think he asked me to marry him.  I just jumped up, grabbed the ring and said: “Yes,  Yes, Yes, Yes…”

But what made me so sure? My the last relationship was not good ( to put it mildly.)  I spent a very long time in a relationship that was not good for me. And although everyone else could see that it was not good, I could not.   So how could I trust my judgement now?  How could I let my wall down and trust Lamar?  Why was I so confident that I was making that right decision with Lamar?

Click through to see 10 reasons why I knew Lamar was the one

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Ronnie Tyler

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Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.

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