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1. vibrant1
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   I've been married for 7 years and our household consist of my elderly mom, 2 grandkids, & at one time, my husband's daughter from his 1st marriage.She has moved out(without telling anyone!)and when we finally talked she said she just couldn't stand living w/her dad anymore. My husband lost his job about six mos ago due to his attitude. I've tried to start online business ventures to supplement our income & when they weren't going well, I found out my husband purposely let them fail-his reason- because it was my idea! I would've went with his idea but he never had one(yes,I asked). I've gone to counseling with & without him for years(both spiritual & non), and he won't communicate.

   Recently I found that he's been communicating with about 5 women via the Internet & one in particular he's been in contact with since his 1st marriage. He says he's sorry but I realize it's only because he got caught! I'm about to start working a much needed 2nd job while I complete my degree.

   What are you thoughts on this situation? I've prayed and prayed and prayed some more but the love for him is gone & I'd just like to be happy again. I'm not looking or talking to another man(I've got too much to do!). I just want peace in my life again!!

   Posted 8 months ago #

2. andyclyde
   Member

   Divorce is that quick answer for everything. It's not really. If your husband's attitude change about six months you might need to rewind and find out what caused that change. Men have depressions also.

   AndyClyde

   Posted 8 months ago #

3. IPromise
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   Sorry that I am just seeing this now. I don't know if you have already made a decision since posting this but please consider something. You have a Mom, Grandkids and a husband who does not seem to be shouldering the load financially or emotionally. It is perfectly natural to opt for divorce. Our tendency is to want to free ourselves from negative feelings like anger, boredom, guilt or pressure. It looks like you have all these issues in one home and certainly no one would blame you. But if you are not in tune with the real source of happiness and peace (I'm a Christian) than you will not find it in divorce. God enables us to choose true joy (Him) even in the midst of our circumstances. Whether or not you stay with your husband, don't rely on your circumstances to make you happy, but rather choose happiness and in doing so, you will affect those around you - even your husband.

   Posted 2 months ago #

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