My husband of 13 years has been having a affair. An emotional affair. When I found out I confronted him and the other woman. They both said that they were just friends which I don't believe. My husband has told me that they discussed our relationship and other things. I feel betrayed, my emotions are all over the place. Am I wrong for feeling like this because it wasn't a physical affair?
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Is an emotional affair just as bad as a physical affair?
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Posted 1 year ago #
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I think you are not wrong for feeling like that. It's hurtful knowing that the most intimate things that you discuss with your significant other and the things you're going through are being discussed to the other person. I feel it's still disrespecting the marriage.
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You are not wrong for that because an emotional affair will tear your marriage apart. I have gone through it for years and when they say that those magic words "oh we are just friends" don't believe it. An emotional affair can turn to a phyical affair. I've been married for 15 years and all I can say is trust your instincts they won't steer you wrong. An emotional affair is just as bad as a physical one, I've gone through it.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Yes an emotional affair is just as bad...
Posted 1 year ago # -
My affair started with emotions,talking to her about promblems and giving advise. Before I knew it, I was caught up and having a child with a woman I did not want to spend the rest of my life with.
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My husband had an emotional affair for months and I had no idea. He was paying her cell phone bill so he could call her any time he wanted to. I found out because he got sloppy and accidently left a receipt for her cell phone bill on the kitchen counter. He told me a series of lies trying to find one I'd believe but after a few days he came clean but he still won't admit that it was anything more than a friendship. I asked "A friendship going on for months that your hiding from your wife? That's not a normal friendship! There's something wrong with that friendship." The good thing is that she lived in another part of the country. I did try to contact her to ask if they had ever hooked up but she refused to talk to me and stopped talking to him after she received my call. Just a friend my #@$!
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Jesus said that even if a man lusts after another woman in his heart, he is guilty of adultery. If your husband is getting some need met through nurturing a relationship with another woman than find out what it is. It is fortunate that you are aware of the friendship. Now your response will either sow the seeds for reconciling things in your marriage or put nails in the coffin. Ask him what he gets out of maintaining this "friendship" and why isn't your marriage providing this? Yes this was an act of betrayel but you would rather your marriage grow through this experience and become stronger rather than let it drive a wedge between you permanently.
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